A journey alone

The journey to a peaceful and blessed life begins when you take 100 percent responsibility for your life instead of blaming others. so today m telling you, how we learn from our mistakes in our alone journey of life. Bina future ki soche apni present life ko feel krna seekhna .problems ko smjna aatm Chintan se (self-thinking) biiti Zindagi k bare me sochna ki kya shi Kia or kya galt kra, guilty se ubhrna .bht sare log future k lie sochte h but I think present k bare me sochoge to future apne ap best rhenga without any large mistakes. because if u think for future only its gives more tension and depression. or ski vajah se hum apna present bhi nhi jii pate or humara present future dono khrab ho jata h. and in this we will learn how to heal our past guilts . in our alone journey of life how we learn from our past mistakes and how we heal from our past guilts i know sbne kch esa kia hota h in past jiske lie to life tym guilt feel krta h or poori lyf apne aap ko kosta hai but no want to how we heal our guilt ."Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive about what could go right."Mistakes teach you important lessons, Every time you encounter one, you have a step closer to your goal.

main nakaaraatmak cheejon par rahane mein bahut samay bitaata hoon, aisa ho sakata hai, itana hai ki yah mujhe un achchhee cheejon ko yaad karane ka kaaran banata hai jo mere aasapaas ho rahee hain. isaka kaaran yah hai ki bure logon kee tulana mein lagabhag hamesha adhik achchhe kshan hote hain. yadi aap nakaaraatmak vichaar soch rahe hain, to aap apana time waste kar rahe hain. haan, yah vaastav mein itana aasaan hai. pachhataave aur / ya gapashap jaise negative rahane ke bajaay, aap adhik productive ho sakate hain aur us time ka upayog un cheejon ke lie kar sakate hain jo vaastav mein importance rakhatee hain. adhik sakaaraatmak hone se, aap apane jeevan ko behatar banaane aur kshan mein jeene mein saksham honge.

how we heal our shame through self-forgiveness, self understanding leads to self forgiveness

yah mahatvapoorn hai ki aap kuchh aatm-samajh haasil karen. yah samajhate shade ki aapake dvaara anubhav kie gae aaghaat (non) ne aapake niyantran se baahar kee samasyaon ka saamana kiya hai, jisase aap doosaron ko chot pahunchaane vaale tareekon ke lie khud ko kshama karane kee disha mein ek lamba raasta tay kar sakate hain. udaaharan ke lie, yah samajhana ki aapakee lat-chaahe vah sharaab, hauls, seks, bhojan, khareedaaree, ya jue kee ho, aatm-chikitsa ka ek tareeka hai aur chinta aur bhay ka saamana karane ke lie, aapako apane aap ko rokane ke lie madad kar sakatee hai. aapake nashe kee lat ne aapake kareebiyon ko nukasaan pahunchaaya. yah samajhate tone ki aap apane bachchon ya apane saathee ke prati apamaanajanak ho gae hain ya doosaron ko aapake durupayog ke anubhavon se seedhe aane kee anumati dene ka ek paitarn vikasit kar liya hai, in vyavahaaron ke lie khud ka peechha karana band karane kee ummeed karenge. anusandhaan se pata chalata hai ki aaghaat ke deerghakaalik prabhaav sabase spasht aur pramukh hote hain, jab log tanaav mein hote hain, naee sthitiyon mein, ya un sthitiyon mein jo unhen apane aaghaat kee paristhitiyon kee yaad dilaate hain.

sach to yah hai, hamane sabhee ko nukasaan pahunchaaya hai. vaastav mein, is grah ke har ek vyakti ne kam se kam ek any vyakti ko un tareekon se nukasaan pahunchaaya hai, jinhonne us vyakti ke jeevan ko aakaar diya hai. yah jaanakar aur yah jaanakar ki aap akele nahin hain, isase aapako khud par daya karane aur khud ko maaph karane mein madad mil sakatee hai. apane lie karuna mahasoos karana aapako apane kaaryon ke lie jimmedaaree lene se mukt nahin karata hai (ham is blog post mein baad mein is par charcha karenge). lekin yah aapako aatm-ghrna se mukt kar sakata hai jo aapako khud ko maaph karane se rokata hai aur aapako spashtata ke saath sthiti ka javaab dene ke lie svatantr karata hai. apane aap ko aparaadh aur sharm ke saath peeda dene ke bajaay, apane svayan ke dukhon ke lie karuna karana aur jin logon ko aapane nukasaan pahunchaaya hai, unake dukh ke lie aapako un tareekon ke baare mein sochane ke lie aavashyak spashtata haasil karane mein madad mil sakatee hai, jinase aap nukasaan pahuncha sakate hain.

Acknowledging the interconnected nature of our lives is another aspect of Common Humanity. The truth is, who we are, how we think and how we behave is inextricably interwoven with other people and events. . In other words, you didn’t get to where you are today all by yourself. Your tendency to be a victim or your tendency to be abusive did not just happen. You must continue to look for the causes and conditions that lead you to these unhealthy behavior patterns.

At the point when we start to perceive that we are a result of incalculable elements, we don't have to think about our 'own failings' so actually. At the point when we recognize the multifaceted snare of causes and conditions in which we are completely implanted, we can be less critical of ourselves as well as other people. A profound comprehension of interconnectedness permits us to have empathy for the way that we're doing as well as can be expected given the hand life has given us."

“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”

Two emotional states which carry a strong burden — guilt and shame. Healing these two states not only liberates you from carrying the burden of the past into the present moment, but the accompanying emotions of fear and anxiety are subsequently healed.

Fear and anxiety accompany guilt and shame since there is an underlying fear connected to feelings of guilt. The shameful person fears being found out or exposed for their deep feelings towards oneself, although this tends to be an invalid thought process.

Guilt is defined as a deep feeling of remorse for an act that may or may not has occurred in the past. Therefore, guilt becomes a past experience that is renewed in the present moment.

We continue to replay the emotional state associated with guilt believing we are unworthy of making peace with the past. Guilt and conscious are synonymously tied. It is a misperception that there is a right or wrong course of action, and subsequently the person ties a connection to having performed a wrongful act in the past for which they should be punished.

They perpetuate the scolded inner child since they feel unworthy of attaining inner peace. There is misguided thinking which imposes the thought, “Since I committed an untoward act, I deserved to be punished and carry the guilt with me.”

However, showing mercy towards oneself can be the greatest act of kindness and healing process to release the burden of the past. Showing mercy towards oneself liberates you from no longer carrying the guilt into the future.

You were doing the best you could at the time given the resources apparent to you. As you journey through life and acquire a better understanding and awareness, typically you look back on the past with a feeling of regret and remorse for your actions.

What if in looking back on your past you did so with a compassionate heart filled with forgiveness rather than guilt? Release the burden of carrying the guilt into the present moment for in doing so you not only heal the past, you simultaneously bring new life to the present and future.

In a similar vein, shame is viewed as a product of failing to live up to an imagined ideal of oneself. You create an image of who you should be from a young age, which is the accumulation of the thoughts and ideas of those whom you love and respect.

Unfortunately for a number of people, these ideals may no longer serve them as they undertake a new life path or embark upon a spiritual journey of self-discovery.

Shame may also be reflected in the ideals held by society. Popular culture affirms a set of principles and conducts one must conform to if they are to be deemed worthy within the context of the tribe.

There are a set of do’s and don’ts which are typically acquired in adolescence and this is no more evident within the context of marriage. Marriage and family are viewed as natural developments into adulthood for the young male and female. Whilst there is some merit in being a virtuous citizen, upholding morale places restrictions that do not serve those who fall out of the bounds of these obligations.

Shame creates an unrealistic measure of self-worth since you create a point of separation between who you think you should be who and you who actually are. This creates the basis for shame since you feel unworthy of measuring up to the image perpetuated in the mind.

It must be said that this is merely a mirage — a canvas created by the mind in which you attempt to live up to. Yet if you fail to live up to this image of oneself, suffering ensues since there is a divide between the imagined self and the proposed self.

The accumulation of shame can lead to depression and anxiety, notwithstanding the image of being shamed. For many people living this way may be considered normal, since they have no contrasting reference points advising them on how they should really feel.

You internalise shame since you feel it is inappropriate to be angry, sad, depressed or otherwise. You endeavor to uphold an image that society has depicted of a well-adjusted and happy individual who is devoid of toxic emotions.

After all, who wants to know a dysfunctional individual who is incapable of handling their emotional state in a healthy manner? This is the message which many people unwittingly buy into, believing they need to suppress or mask their emotions in order to appear ‘normal.’

phir bhee saamaany dikhane ke lie kisee kee sachchee bhaavanaon ko maask karana sachchaee ko chhupaane ke lie bahut kam hota hai, jab aapakee bhaavanaen aapako tod detee hain aur aap par haavee ho jaatee hain - tab tak bahut der ho chukee hotee hai. saphalataapoorvak, bahut se logon ko dar ke lie apanee bhaavanaon ko vyakt karane mein sharm aatee hai unhen nyaay kiya jaega - kuchh sanskrtiyon mein, jaise ki jaapaanee, apanee bhaavanaon ko dabaane ke lie apane eshiyaee padosiyon kee tulana mein saamaany maana jaata hai jo unakee bhaavanaatmak abhivyakti mein khule hain.

isalie, sharm ke maadhyam se aage badhane ke lie apanee aantarik bhaavanaatmak sthiti se avagat ho jaen. yah pahachaanane ke lie hai ki aap sharm se jee rahe hain, bajaay inakaar ya bhaavana ko dabaane ke. jaagarookata agale chikitsa dvaar ke lie pravesh dvaar kholatee hai. virodh karane ke bajaay apanee aantarik sthiti ko sveekaar karane kee ichchha honee chaahie - isase bhaagane ke bajaay sharm ko gale lagao ya ise bhang kar do. "mujhe sharm kee anubhooti hai" ke bajaay ek svasth aantarik pratigyaan ban jaata hai, "main apane pichhale kaaryon ke lie sharminda hoon." ant mein, apane aap ko vyakt karana chikitsa prakriya ka antim dvaar hai, kyonki kisee ko apanee bhaavanaon ko doosaron ke saath saajha karane aur talaashane kee aavashyakata hotee hai taaki ve apanee bhaavanaon ko gahare star par jod saken aur baad mein unhen sashakt banaane mein badal saken. sharm ke anubhav ke bheetar ek aadhyaatmik sandesh nihit hai. garv se, sharm aur garv ke ghoonghat ke peechhe se ubharane kee prateeksha karane vaale vaastavik aur praamaanik aatm ko aspasht karata hai.

Life is like making tea! Boil your ego, Evaporate your worries, Dilute your sorrows, Filter your mistakes & Get Taste of Happiness. :)

Every Test In Life Makes Us Bitter Or Better. Every Problem Comes To Make Us Or Break Us. Choice Is Ours, To Become Victim Or Victorious"...

How to Forgive Yourself: Letting Go of Past Regrets past ki galtiyo ko present me na krne ki kosish or present ko enjoy krna if present acha hoga to future apne aap acha ho jaega its not important ki hmne Kia glti ki but its important ki humne usse Kia seekha and how we make success in present life . at last I said a poem achi late may be

Tu Khud Ki Khoj Me Nikal

तू ख़ुद की खोज में निकल

तू किसलिए हताश है

तू चल तेरे वजूद की

समय को भी तलाश है

जो तुझसे लिपटी बेड़ियाँ

समझ न इनको वस्त्र तू

ये बेड़ियाँ पिघाल के

बना ले इनको शस्त्र तू

तू ख़ुद की खोज में निकल

तू किसलिए हताश है

तू चल तेरे वजूद की

समय को भी तलाश है

चरित्र जन पवित्र है

तोह क्यों है ये दशा तेरी

ये पापियों को हक़ नहीं

की लें परीक्षा तेरी

तू ख़ुद की खोज में निकल

तू किसलिए हताश है

तू चल तेरे वजूद की

समय को भी तलाश है

जला के भस्म कर उसे

जो क्रूरता का जाल है

तू आरती की लौ नहीं

तू क्रोध की मशाल है

तू ख़ुद की खोज में निकल

तू किसलिए हताश है

तू चल तेरे वजूद की

समय को भी तलाश है

चूनर उड़ा के ध्वज बना

गगन भी कपकपाएगा

अगर तेरी चूनर गिरी

तोह एक भूकंप आएगा

तू ख़ुद की खोज में निकल

तू किसलिए हताश है

तू चल तेरे वजूद की

समय को भी तलाश है

thanks and The struggles I'm facing, the chances I'm taking, Sometimes might knock me down but no I'm not breaking!

keep it up n never break keep moving and reach our happiness

and to thanks to apoorva sir for giving me this topic apko acha lge